I can pick and I can choose (that’s my definition).
Here’s one from the urbandictionary.com
noun 1. the new black 2. (obsolete) a former term of approbation for a woman who acted too forward, self-assured; a woman who did not conform to the patriarchal dictate that women be quiet, submissive, and un-opinionated.
Boy: “Why is that woman wearing such an heavy air of confidence and demonstrating such dead-on assertion?”
Friend: “Haven’t you heard? Bitch is the new black.”